What Kind of Spanko Are You?

I want to take a stab at trying to understand the types of Spanko’s. I will base my conclusions on my life experiences. Which may not be adequate for the purpose.

First, I don’t think any of us choose to be a spanko, nor do I think any of us choose what kind of spanko we are. I divide spankos into two broad groups. The smaller one, I call the fun group, views spanking as sensual, erotic, and fun. The larger group requires some element of punishment.

I know a good deal about the fun group. I know a little about the other. I got a lifetime supply of punishment in school. They were all traumatic experiences. I don’t want anyone controlling me. I do not want to control anyone. I will not relinquish my freedom nor take another’s.

OBB is about the fun group. I really don’t know what the punishment folks find of interest here.

I was punished with paddlings in school in every grade except one. A reasonable person might infer I would want nothing to do with corporal punishment or I would land in the punishment camp.

Nope. At 15 I started spanking girls. Not one objected. Some girls would do the same thing  to get spanked again. I got my hand on their bare bottom. That was a big deal to a 15 yo. The spankings were brief with lots of giggling. And then there was a half-necked gal in my lap. What to do? What to do?

Here is how I see it. Spanko’s who have to have punishment with spanking seem to be ashamed of it. It’s their darkest secret. They don’t want to talk about it. Perhaps it is that spanking is normally associated with childhood punishment?

Those of us who see spanking as fun are more open about it. I never had a problem suggesting to a date that she might need a good spanking. Not all took my offer, but most did.

Our spanking group was composed exclusively of fun people. Before anyone could join they had to write a profile about themselves and explain what they expected from the group. The profile was published on our website so that every member could know something about them.

Looking back now, I think writing the profile, outing themselves, kept the punishment crowd out of our group. That was not our intention, it just worked that way.

Frankly, I don’t think the two groups can mingle successfully.

The Fun group may be divided into Tops, Bottoms and Switches.

The Punishment group might be divided into Sadists and Masochistic. Those labels might not apply to all, but they sure do to most.

Masochistics seek gratification through pain, degradation, or self-denial. When I see a man or woman being thrashed with a heavy cane and not showing any reaction, I don’t need to know more about them to know they live in the punishment camp. Ditto for self-denial in all its forms.

Sadists crave tears.

Finding a spanking partner  I never had any problem finding a gal that liked to be spanked. If she seemed like a keeper I would suggest she could paddle me. The secret here is to keep it fun. If she agrees this is not the time to make a lot of rules. Take what she gives and be complimentary. Down the road you can suggest an modification.

What you don’t want to do is suggest she become the dominant or the leader. For a fun girl, you are screwing with the cosmic order, you are pouring diesel into a carbureted engine. She may try to accommodate you, but there are few long-term success stories. You ambushed her. You may have married a fun girl and then wanted her to punish you. That’s deception.

If you require a woman to control, scold and punish you other than hiring one, I have no idea how to find one.